3 Steps for Training New Leaders in Children’s Ministry

How do you train new leaders? There are many different methods for training new leaders for your ministry, but here are several steps that are each an essential part of every leadership training. The following steps will help guide you as you train your new leaders.

trainnewleaderStep 1: Getting to Know Each Other

When you are training new leaders, you need to start their training first by meeting with them and spending time getting to know them. New leaders will feel much more comfortable once they get to know you.

After getting to know them, a good leader will then share his vision for the ministry and the purpose of the ministry with the new leader. This is important so that you both are on the same page starting from the very beginning of their time in the ministry.

Next, you will need to ask the new leader what their gifts are. This question is essential because it will determine the correct role for the new leader in your ministry. We often tend to accept any help we can get in our ministry and plug new leaders into the first opening that comes to mind. Instead, we should first meet with them and determine where they can best fit and use their strengths. If you think that they won’t succeed in a certain role, then don’t put them there. As the leader of your ministry, you are in charge of making sure that your new leaders are set up to succeed. Soon, you are going to want to give them a few responsibilities that they will be comfortable with and give them the opportunity to grow.

Step 2: Getting Acquainted with the Ministry

Have you ever been thrown into a situation that you knew nothing about? While some people enjoy that, others don’t always do well in that kind of situation. Take some time to let them get acquainted with other leaders and hear from them how the ministry works. Give them the opportunity to learn from the experiences of your leaders. Often, we neglect to let our ministry team share their wisdom with new leaders. The ability to learn from new team members is invaluable to a new leader in the ministry.

Don’t forget to tell them about the ministry! Give a history of the ministry including what has worked well in the past and what hasn’t worked very well. Give specifics for the new role that the new leader will be involved in. A written description of any programs and events will also help explain the function of the different parts of the ministry. If they are getting involved in a specific program, give them a schedule of what normally happens during that program.

Give them a chance to see how the ministry works. Let them shadow another leader, or sit through a program. This final preparation will help the new leader feel much more comfortable once they step into their new role.

Step 3: On the Job Training

Training does’t just happen before a new leader takes on their new role; it happens while they serving in the ministry. After people join a ministry, we should continue to build them up and train them to become better leaders. This means that we are keeping in touch with how they are doing, sharing constructive feedback with them, providing ministry resources to them, and giving them the opportunity to give you feedback about the ministry.

During the first several weeks, spending time with your new leaders is key to their success. Check on them and ask them how they are doing. Observe them in the ministry and give them praise and tips for what to try working on. Be encouraging! Tell them what they are doing well and continue to give them encouraging words. You can even have a meeting several weeks after they start serving in the ministry to give them feedback on how they are doing. As they continue to grow in their role in the ministry, give your leaders the chance to continue to grow. Let them take on new responsibilities and give them the resources to do it! As the leader of a ministry, we need to be the ones to raise up other leaders, instructing them and setting them up for success.

Now go out and enjoy training new leaders! Training leaders is an exciting opportunity to mentor other Christian believers to be successful in ministry. It is exciting to see them grow in their ministry role and to grow closer to God. You will also make some new friends in the process!

Iron Man 3 Movie Review for Children

Overview:

Tony Stark is the man behind the mask. This time, he is back for a third Iron Man movie, which follows the previous two Iron Man movies and wildly popular Avengers movie. In Iron Man 3, Tony comes face-to-face with a new nemesis, while having to spend most of the movie without his normal array of battle armor.

Iron_Man_3_theatrical_posterThe movie starts off by showing how “human” Tony Stark has become: sleepless nights, anxiety attacks, and inner turmoil that he wrestles with for the whole movie. In fact, a strong theme of Iron Man 3 is Tony’s attempt to prove to himself that he can be a superhero without the super suit.

Tony fights against yet another nemesis, the Mandarin, who has become a national terrorist. The Mandarin plans various attacks, one of which seriously injures Tony’s longtime bodyguard and friend. At this point, Tony begins his mission of pure revenge against the Mandarin, vowing to not stop until he is dead (various other deaths provide motivation as well). This theme is not lost in the movie, as Tony continues to pursue the Mandarin until defeating him at the very end of the movie.

Now let me start off by saying this: As an adult who loves action movies and is a big fan of the Marvel superheroes, I really enjoyed this movie. Seeing Iron Man battling the bad guys was just plain awesome. The action scenes were exciting, the graphics were amazing, and the storyline moved along enough to keep me engaged the whole time. That said, this movie needs serious consideration from parents before they decide to bring their children to this movie.

Positive Elements:

First, let’s look at the positive themes in the movie. Tony Stark saves countless people while fighting the bad guys. He also changes how he spends his time, going from hours of self-indulgence in creating technology and having numerous one night stands to eventually making the decision to spend more time with those he cares about (such as Pepper). Tony learns how to treat others better, making friends instead of enemies. The value of human life is evident throughout the movie. Tony risks his life to save the lives of others, while the careless regard for lives by the Mandarin is clearly portrayed as evil. The theme of not compromising on morals is strong in Iron Man 3, giving Tony a better self-image as his character is slowly portrayed as the true superhero, one that doesn’t need his suit.

Negative Elements:

There are several areas of concern that parents need to know about that are in Iron Man 3. While not made very prominent, references to spirituality are made carelessly at a few points in the movie. For example, demons are mentioned in reference to evil enemies and crisis. Also, a reference to the Mandarin’s speech is described of having likeness to that of a “Baptist preacher’s” speech. There are a few other small references to spiritual matters, but they are portrayed in a neutral light. Other negative elements are covered in the Look Out! Content section.

Look Out! Content:

Iron Man 3 brings back the scantily-dressed women, and it seems to have brought even more women into this movie than the previous two movies. A strong theme we see in Ironman 3 is the poor portrayal of women. Regardless of their social status or day-job (even a famous scientist joins the crowd), many women are shown in their underwear and are involved in situations that send very strong sensual messages. To put it frankly, you can expect four to five scenes of under dressed women throughout the movie.

Tony and Pepper (his girlfriend) are now officially together. Well, not truly, but they are seriously dating and living together now. This theme of co-habitation is portrayed as simply “normal” in this movie, without even a hint or mention of marriage being made. A reference to sharing a shower is also made.

Violence is shown throughout the movie in large doses. There is more gore and gruesome scenes in this movie than in previous Iron Man movies. This isn’t just Iron Man beating up robots, aliens, or a single bad guy. People die painful deaths, frequently blow up, are disintegrated or strangled to death, and die in various other ways.

The Mandarin is a terrorist who shares that he has purposefully sought out and killed women and children in order to enact “revenge.” His reign of terror is displayed as frightening, which is exactly what it would do to young children watching the movie. Video clips of murder are displayed several times as acts of terrorism.

The bad guys look awfully evil, having glowing eyes and bodies that characterize them. They also have the ability to shoot fire out of their mouths and regenerate limbs. While adults will understand the “storyline” behind the state of the bad guys, the ability to understand this theme will go way over the heads of children and younger teens.

For the language in this movie, suffice it to say that there are more than 20 crude references/swear words in this movie, including taking the Lord’s name in vain at least 10 times.

There were a number of warning flags in this movie for content that children shouldn’t be exposed to. The most upsetting scene I saw was when Tony Stark laughs in the face of a child whose father had left him years ago, then tells the child to stop acting like a p**** and get over it, because all dads leave. Wow. (Also, it was a totally unnecessary addition to this movie, adding no value whatsoever). To top it off, this message was one of the clearest messages in the movie.

Conclusion:

While there are several positive themes in this movie, the negative content definitely makes this movie not child-friendly. Personally, I would not recommend this movie for children. Their level of cognitive ability means that they cannot comprehend this movie like teenagers and adults could. I would also add that there are plenty of other action-packed movies that are more appropriate for children than this movie. Iron Man 3 would be an exciting action movie for mature adults and teenagers to watch, but it is not worth exposing children to the negatives themes evident throughout Iron Man 3.

Kid-Friendly Rating: Thumbs Down

How to Predict Your Own Coin Toss Correctly Every Time!

c262842_mLet’s be honest: Everyone wants to be able to amaze their friends and the children in their ministries by performing cool tricks. Chances are, you will often have a quarter in your pocket that you can use to perform a cool coin toss trick yourself!

Here are the instructions you need to predict your own coin toss correctly every time:

  • First, you need a quarter that has the bald eagle on the back (between the years 1965-1998).
  • Then, you need to make sure that you perform the whole trick by yourself. This means that you will flip the coin and catch it yourself.

Now you are ready for the trick! Flip the coin and catch it in the base of the middle of your fingers (between the palm and fingertips). While you are turning the coin over to place it on the backside of your other hand, run over the surface of the quarter with your thumb.

Alright, here is the secret! The “heads” side of the quarter will be smooth, and the “tails” side of the quarter will be rough. When you run your thumb over one side of the quarter, you will be able to secretly figure out which side will be facing up because of the texture of the side that is facing down! For example, if you flip the quarter and feel that the side that is going to face down is rough, you will want to make sure you call “heads” because the smooth side will be facing up. By doing this, you will be able to predict your own coin toss correctly every time!

There it is: the secret it out! Practice it a few times, and go impress your family and friends! If you work with children, show this trick to them at church and amaze them week after week!

Training Youth to be Children’s Ministry Leaders

c299971_mHave you ever considered training the youth in your church to be volunteers in your children’s ministry? If you haven’t before, you should start! The youth in your church are probably yearning for the chance to serve and take some form of leadership. Giving them the chance to serve in the children’s ministry will both grow them as leaders and help your children’s ministry to grow and prosper. The students are at an age where they are just discovering what they are good at, and they want to use those abilities in a ministry. As the children’s pastor/director, you can train them to use their abilities and give them the resources to do so. Here are a few steps that you can think through to start this process, or to improve the training system you already have in place.

1. Do you have a couple volunteers who would like to teach? Train them first! Walk with them through the preparatory steps, giving them the resources you use to prepare your own lessons. After they are ready, give them the chance to teach in a smaller group. Be there to encourage them, and give them positive and constructive feedback afterwards! The more they teach, the better they will become.

2. Do you have youth who have talents like doing crafts, playing music, running games, etc? By giving them the chance to lead, they will grow in their faith and their leadership. Many leaders in ministry today first served as youth in their church. Think of creative ways that you can let your youth take leadership roles in your ministry. You could let them lead worship, lead a craft, use a puppet, run a game, or run a small group! The possibilities for leadership are numerous, it is just up to you to help them lead.

3. One thing we sometimes don’t think about as children’s ministry leaders is the fact that there are youth that can actually connect better with certain kids than we can. Whether you are at a small church or a large church, recognizing the importance of youth that can connect with children is essential.

4. Mentoring the youth to become effective disciple-makers themselves is very important for both the youth and the children in your ministry. For this mentorship, don’t forget to team up with your youth pastor so that you can both help the youth learn how to disciple others and maximize their talents as they learn how to serve in ministry.

Youth can become vital ministry leaders in your children’s ministry. Are you building them to become effective disciple-makers?

The Live LOCAL Children’s Ministry Collaborative Giveaway!

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Hey everyone! Are you ready for the LOCAL giveaways? Whether you are in Chicago or are checking out LOCAL online, you can enter for these giveaways today! Remember, you only have until around 3pm to enter, so make sure you join in! Here are the rules to enter and the prizes:

UPDATE: Winners announced below!

How to sign up for the online giveaways:

1. You can tweet about LOCAL using the hashtag #LOCALkidmin

2. You can drop a comment on one of the live blogs posts (such as this one) on KidminTools.com.*

Prizes:

1. What’s In The Bible: Volume 10 Church Edition

2. Bread & Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes, by Shauna Niequist

3. Entrusted curriculum for tweens from Awana (3 sets)

4. KidminTools Children’s Ministry Pack

  • The Five Love Languages of Children- Gary Chapman
  • With All Their Hearts- Christine Yount Jones
  • The Action Bible: New Testament

5. KidminTools Spiritual Enrichment Pack for Leaders

  • I Know, Lord. I Need to Change. Help Me. – James MacDonald
  • Cries from the Cross – Erwin Lutzer
  • Amazing Faith- Thomas Shaw, forward by Joni Eareckson Tada
  • Daily Readings from the Life of Christ- John MacArthur

Here’s a trailer introducing the Entrusted Tweens curriculum:

Winners will be announced tonight online, so be sure to check back to see if you won! Online participants are eligible to enter for the online LOCAL giveaways as well. If you have any questions or have won one of the prizes, please email me at kidmintoolbox@gmail.com (if you win, please include your mailing address).

*If leaving a live blog comment, please enter your name into the space provided in order to be entered into the contest.

UPDATE: The winners for the giveaway contest have been drawn! Here they are:

  1. Andrew Belcher- Entrusted tweens curriculum by Awana
  2. Melanie Rainer- Entrusted tweens curriculum by Awana
  3. Frank Tan- Entrusted tweens curriculum by Awana
  4. Kevin White- KidminTools Spiritual Enrichment Pack for Leaders
  5. Dan Lovaglia- Kidmintools Children’s Ministry Pack
  6. Marc Fry- What’s in the Bible: Volume 10 Church Edition
  7. Shannon Roy- Bread & Wine by Shauna Niequist

Congratulations! Thanks for joining us either in person or on the web for the day! In several days, Amy Dolan and I will be posting a summary of LOCAL and some of the hightlights. Be sure to come back to check them out, and make sure you keep an eye out for more great resources, reviews, giveaways, and more on KidminTools.com!

The Live Blog for LOCAL, A Children’s Ministry Collaborative: Gathering Three

Gathering Three: Phil Vischer on Family in Chicago

PhilVimagesNotes: In Chicago, we are uniquely positioned to guide Christian kids into culture-shaping work.

  • Christianity in Chicago doesn’t have a Southern accent. Christianity isn’t a cultural expectation here.  It isn’t just “the culture.”  For seven years I worked downtown in video production and advertising, and I didn’t know any other Christians in that world. I was in “the world.” This was key for VeggieTales, being able to speak to audiences of non-Christians and Christians.
  • In Nashville, Atlanta, or Dallas, it is just assumed that everyone is a Christian.  In New York and San Francisco, is it assumed that NO ONE is.  Chicago is a unique big city.  There are many, many Christians in Chicago, but it is not an assumption.  It isn’t the dominant world view.  We are outsiders, but outsiders in such significant numbers that we can really have an impact.
  • The advantage of this over the south is that Christianity here doesn’t become “inbred.”  It is never “assumed.”  The advantage over the northeast or the northwest is that we have sufficient numbers to actually be a factor in the culture.  In Chicago, perhaps more than any other major urban area, Christianity can interact with secular culture in a truly meaningful way.
  • There is so much talent in Chicago. The ability for us to raise creative kids and send them into culture-shaping work without having to move to San Francisco or Hollywood (where being a Christian is much harder because there are few Christians).

How should this affect our children’s ministry programs?

  • We can help children see that God’s world is big and diverse.
  • Chicago is a big doorway to pop culture.
  • Expose children to the economic and cultural diversity of our area. We need soup kitchens, poetry, art, and music.  Expose kids to ALL OF THEM.  The arts communicate God’s truth to many people more effectively than exposition. Paint a vision for your kids to respond to human longings both physical and spiritual.  Very little speaks to our world spiritually more than music, film, theater, art, etc.
  • Empower children to respond to the brokenness they see in the city by creating art to bring God’s light to the city.

How can we help families grow spiritually strong children?

  • Give parents a vision for exposing their children to the diversity, art, and brokenness of the city.
  • Equip.  Redouble our commitment to teaching the faith, and helping parents teach their children faith.  That’s why I’ve spent four years producing the comprehensive “What’s in the Bible?” series, with DVDs for families to use at home and curriculum for churches.
  • Engage.  Empower parents to engage the city.  Be “city literate” – city aware.  Not just of the museums and Navy Pier, though.  Take kids into the neighborhoods.  Learn about the condition of the city, then find ways to pitch in.  Partner with city ministries.
  • Are you equipped to teach children about God in the Chicago museums and Shedd Aquariam? We should be prepared to teach them about God in places like these.
  • Don’t shy away from the culture here. Run towards it!

Lab Three:

Questions for groups:

  • What are the cultural expectations that you run into in your city culture? What about your church culture?
  • How are you uniquely positioned to fight for or press against those expectations for the sake of children?
  • Phil talked about helping children see that God’s world is big and diverse. What are some ways your ministry is doing that right now?
  • Francis Chan wrote, “Fear has a way of channeling our thought process.” Do any fears exist for you or for your ministry context that preclude you from exposing kids to diversity (both cultural, economic, and artistic)?  What are they?  If your church has overcome these fears in the past, how did you do it?  What did you learn in the process?
  • How should your ministry to children and families be shaped by the city and culture you minister in?

TalkBack Three:

  • Idea: Equipping parents with information to take their kids to museums or other places and talk about the inclusion or absence of the Bible and Jesus. ex: The Christian Visitors Guide to Chicago
  • Creating space and platforms within our communities for questions to be raised about things like dinosaurs and other things we find while going places in Chicago. Give them a card and ask for their feedback.
  • Finding ways to show children the need for spiritual growth outside of the one-hour a week on Sundays.
  • Idea: Ask children to draw God. You will be amazed by what they draw to show how they think and what they think about God.
  • We need an opportunity to have conversations about these things with God. Not all parents get to spend this time with their kids. Is there a way that I can set something up, such as lunch once a month, where they can ask me these questions and I can help?
  • Resource: Children Can You Hear Me? Questions that children would like to ask.
  • Idea: Instead of creating early activities for kidmin services, just leaving out paper and crayons for coloring.

Closing Worship Time

The Live Blog for LOCAL, A Children’s Ministry Collaborative: Gathering Two

Gathering Two Notes: Matt Guevara on Special Needs

Worship: Upbeat time of worship with the worship pastor from Willow Creek! It’s so true… your love never fails!

_MG_2109Notes:

  • There is alot more attention and help for children with special needs than there used to be.
  • Parents get alot of feedback from other teachers on their child’s behavior, which is overwhelming for them. They often then go to the doctor to figure things out.
  • $13,000,000 budget for specials education in Matt’s school district in Bartlett.
  • Special needs is an essential topic for kidmin and fammin leaders.

Matt introduces his wife, Noel.

  • Noel began volunteering in specials needs ministry over 30 years ago as a one-on-one partner. She said that she was his sister.
  • No one trained Noel for working with her brother. Many people would ask what’s wrong with him? She would reply, “Nothing, what’s wrong with you?” She often encouraged him to speak for himself
  • As Noel and her brother (Josh) grew older, they found that Josh grew from acceptance in youth ministry and by others and learned about a relationship with Jesus. Even though he didn’t always participate in activities, he was always listening intently.
  • We know that as we teach God’s Word to the least of these, God’s Spirit can use these words to change lives.
  • Josh can be even more faithful in prayer than her whole family.

Things that were difficult for Josh’s parents:

  • Asked for someone in church to just teach Josh and a few others. Eventually, Josh eventually transitioned out.
  • Josh would participate in memory verses and other kidmin activities, but he would have to transition to time with others as well.
  • Josh would be mocked by classmates and realized it, but would choose to forgive them anyways. It was hard on his parents and his sister.
  • Sometimes Josh would “disappear” in class (didn’t do anything).
  • Josh currently goes to a church where there is a baby with down syndrome, and they were able to help.

Josh came up to the front to speak with Noel for an interview.

  • _MG_2132What do you do? Clean bathrooms and other things at church.
  • Favorite team? Chicago Cubs!
  • What do you like doing? Hanging with nieces.
  • Would you like to tell anything else about yourself? You like having down syndrome? Oh yeah!

Noel shares with us:

  • Having a special needs ministry might overwhelm you.
  • When I think about special needs ministry, I think about Josh, and I cant think about life without him and what he means to my family and myself.

Matt shares about the importance of Tween ministry, and introduces a video for the curriculum Entrusted, by Awana.

Lab Two:

Questions for groups:

_MG_1982What stuck out to you about Noel’s story?

Why does this topic matter in your ministry context?

What empowers special needs ministry in your context?

What’s going well?  Where do you want to improve?

What holds special needs ministry from growing or from starting in your church?

What do you need to take a next step towards supporting families facing special needs?

What could your ministry do to help another ministry support families facing special needs?

TalkBack Two:

  • Keep your eyes open to people around you.
  • _MG_2231Be patient and embrace the awkward. It might take awhile to understand what a child (with special needs) is saying. Its awkward. Be patient.
  • Look out for what’s best for the child.
  • Trust the experts in your ministry for advice.
  • Don’t only used the trained people in your church. They often work 60 hours a week and need a break! Make sure to look for other people to help in your special needs ministry as well.
  • Nathaniel’s hope and Joni and friends provide resources for special needs.
  • Bethany Hammer recommended a video during the talkback session about three families with special needs children that were interviewed at her church. These families talk about things they are struggling with. This video is recommended as a great resource to show your pastor when you want to discuss special ministries.raining at Wheaton College on May 4th.
  • Wheaton college has a great special needs ministry called STARS that Scottie Mae recommended that you check out!
  • Inclusive Church is a great blog by Amy Lee Fenton on specials needs ministry.
  • A book from Awana on working with children with special needs is recommended.
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